July edition of To Whom It May Concern

[hamamelis]

Come on, you know you want to.

[mudcreekmama]

Dear Friend,

I know that my greatest trials are to be found within the community relating one on one with believers and that this is where we practice the Faith. This is where we practice all the virtues, acceptance, compassion, tolerance, and yes detachment...but it really is difficult to even get to that place when you totally avoid me because of the connection we have in the greater community! Ummm hello! I assume this is your fear of faith based nepotism (is there a proper word for this??) but avoiding us in the greater community, then avoiding us out of embarrassment in the inner Faith based community is not a good way to deal with it! The community is too small to do this!

I'll pray that it gets easier now that you've returned to teaching and aren't working in administration in the outer community, but given your role in administration in the faith based community too, you can't avoid me forever so GET OVER IT QUICKLY!!! Like, it would be nice is you were over it by the 12th, next feast, when we have to sit at the same table with just a small group of us!

And another thing! I am a shy person, it takes a lot for me to go introduce myself - both at school functions and faith functions, to have you actively avoid me HURTS even if I see the reasons why! It really HURT when I met your wife and she is lovely, but when she found out who I was have her get all weird and avoidant too! Thank goodness your parents and siblings act normally with me or I'd think this was something bigger - like you actively dislike me. The reality is we live in the same community and we share the same faith community....if we were pioneering in a large centre this work/school/faith community schism would need to be addressed because it would happen all the time!

I'm trying to find a way to address this with you, but my shy nature makes it impossible for me to chase you down to talk about it. I just know I'd either burst into tears because of the emotional issue this has become or get shrill trying to keep the tears at bay. Maybe I should send you a link to this letter here!

[Bickery]

Dear Weather Gods,

Really, I'd prefer it to remain slightly cool and overcast today. We've gotten plenty of harsh, unrelenting sun for the time being. Perhaps what you could do it meter out rain over the entire month of July this year instead of dumping it all at the end and causing flash floods.

In exchange, you can look down at me in glee as I wonder how I'll dry clothing. It'll be funny!

[skyra]

I know that life feels much MUCH better off of your meds. I am enjoying seeing the old you and that sparkle in your eyes. But please, for the love of God, slow down for a few minutes! :bounce::bounce::bounce:
It isn't that I don't love seeing you in all of your glory, but man...I am just about ready to medicate MYSELF now! :razzberry:

Yesterday when you were going so fast and hard that you ripped the entire ass out of your shorts was pretty damn funny. Watching you run the other way with all of your glory hanging out almost knocked me over in laughter. Even more funny was when you decided to moon everyone. I just kept thinking, thank God you are back! But, upon coming home did you need to SHRED the shorts? they actually WERE fixable ya know ;).

Nah, seriously. Be a total goon. Be happy. Run. Rip the ass out of your shorts. It is such a relief to have my clown back.

Also, thank you for sitting and talking (crying) about all that is going on with me yesterday. I DO understand how hard this has been for you. I am sorry that you are struggling with feeling sad and frustrated lately. I am glad that we made that list of things that you feel able to do and others that you struggle with. I am glad that you told me that you are having troubles leaving the house, but want me to help you do it anyways. I don't understand why it is the things you WANT to do that give you the most troubles...but I will quit questioning it and just help you.

And dear Raine. You are a Godsend. While you can be a royal pain in the ass, you are truly a rock. You are steady and stable and you understand what is going on. I know that Leif's tics sometimes make you feel like having your own freak out...especially the vocal ones...but you are generally controlling yourself. Thank you for calming your reactions. Thank you for helping out around the house more. Thank you for not needing me to entertain you all of the time. Thank you for helping Leif when things get really tough and he needs added encouragement. You are a WONDERFUL brother. :thumbsup:

And seriously leif...dude. Settle down. :bounce::fan::bliss::jacket::bounce:

[Peggyann]

Dear Obnoxious Guy in the booth behind me at the restaurant,


It doesn't do you any good to be mean and nasty to the waitress, because the restaurant is not putting tomatoes on salads ATM. If you want to voice your opinion about that, there are managers on duty. Belittling the waitstaff will only get your food spit in. You pompus ass.


~PA~

[anna v]

Dear DH

where are you? We're supposed to be at my parents now. I tried to tell you that I didn't think going out to buy a mattress at 4pm on a Friday in the middle of the mid year sales made sense but oh no, you were confident you'd be back in time.

So where are you?

And phone company? The outage on my cell phone is getting old. Please restore service. Like now.

anna fed up

[jump4joy]

Dear people shooting off fireworks, on the 2nd and 3rd of July... you suck. Knock it the fuck off. My kids need to sleep. It's more fun to actually have a little anticipation and wait for the FOURTH anyways!

[anna v]

Yeesh. Pay the bill and service resumes. Crap. I paid the bill, it didn't go through because the website was magically down and like a genius I filed the bill as paid.

Crap. $35 reconnection fee. Crap.

[Pensive]

We're worried about you. Please call one of us back. It's been several weeks.

[gfrach]

I'll just add a rousing "Amen" to this!! I'm all fine with tonight, but there have been way too many boom in the last few days for my taste.

[Annamarie]

Remind me next time I need to vent that you are the wrong person. I am really really pissed off at you right now and your shitty passive aggressive attitude.

[KMP]

Get your facts straight before relaying them to the rest of us. Your smiley "Oops, I guess I was wrong" email doesn't make me any less pissed that you were talking out of your ass when you said we would get paid on the 3rd because of the holiday.

[JaamE]

i didnt introduce you to my buddy because he says he isnt ready to date yet, not because i have a crush on him, or, as you implied, am in love with him. He didn't want to meet you, get over it! You're not all that, and i could care less if he dates, but he's not ready, and he came by work to see me, not meet you. Get the fuck over it. He's just my friend. Stop thinking it's something else, it isn't.

[lizinpa]

why oh why, can't you be an adult and take responsibility for even the little stuff for your children?

You are taking them on vacation tomorrow, and yet would it pain you to get your OWN set of sheets for the beds at the beach for them?? No, I don't have a double bed here. If I remember I'll send what I have. And while we're at it, why IS it you feel so fucking pained to pay for your share of childcare/summer camp for them? After all they're YOUR KIDS too you know.

Oh wait. I know the reasons. Because even though you say you're 48 you're really about 14 in disguise. AND let's not forget the fact that as long as you're showing them off or playing disney dad of the month they're YOUR kids but as soon as it comes to responsibility and all the hard stuff they're MY KIDS.

nice. real nice.

[MorgnsGrl]

Remind me next time I need to vent that you are the wrong person. I am really really pissed off at you right now and your shitty passive aggressive attitude.

nt

[Peggyann]

Dear Mike,

Remember the talk we had about replacing the toilet paper roll if you are the one that uses the last of it? The same principal applies to whoever takes the bag out of the garbage can. :yuck: Now I have to clean the garbage can :yuck:

~PA~

[aleutsi]

Come on, you know you want to.

Dear Love Of My Life,

Thank you so very much for being the anchor I can cling to in this twisted storm life has thrown at us. Thank you for having words and solutions when I have none. Thank you for being strong and able to talk with our oldest about things I don't even have the strength to think about. Thank you for talking with my parents, my brother, your sister, other parents, the boy and his roommates. THANK YOU for being gracious, forgiving, loving and kind and yet still firm all at the same time with her. Thank you for not killing the boy like you originally wanted to and for seeing that he's young and immature which is leading him to make bad choices right along with our child. Thank you for listening to me when you start to loose your grace and realizing that our #1 goal here is our relationship with our child. Thank you for holding me while I collapsed in your arms and wailed in agony.. very similarly to how you held me as I cried out during the labor that birthed this child of ours.

All this while working a 60 hour work week 60 miles from the house. Maybe that work gave you the needed respite to be the amazing support you are to me.

I love you with every bit of all that I am.

:heart::heart::heart::heart::heart::heart::heart:

Dear God,

Thank you for this man.

[mirage1]

Dear Love Of My Life,

Thank you ...

I love you with every bit of all that I am.

:heart::heart::heart::heart::heart::heart::heart:

Dear God,

Thank you for this man.Aw, Annie. :yay:

[Tangwystl]

This reminded me of the time you posted pictures of the grape juice incident. I'm glad he is getting back to his self.
{hands Krista a margherita}

[Peggyann]

Dear Mosquitos,

The kids have no bites.

Mike has no bites.

I have like 10 on my legs

I could be in a room with 100 other people and *1* mosquito, and I would be the one that got bit

Please, go bite someone else!!!

~PA~

[sarahrose]

You know I've been looking forward to this darn girls weekend. But if no one returns my calls or my emails letting me know the plans I'm just going to bail. I need to know the information. I know I missed the last bunco cause we were on vacation but being forthcoming about it would be great.

I understand why some people can't go. But if you were planning on being the carpool driver and then just sending an email saying you aren't going anymore does not help me at all. I need to know who was planning on being in the car on that particular trip and who is now out of luck so I can catch up with them and them drive. Heck...I'll drive. But I'm not going to drive all by myself.

[robyn]

Please, please, for the love of all that is holy, go away. I am single, in case you've forgotten. I can't just roll over at night and get some.

This has been going on for FAR too long. I'm sick of buying batteries.

[kellydog]

:puke::yuck::gross:Dear Roger, the very nice driver at DH's work,

I appreciate that you hauled the fresh pig all the way back from Iowa in coolers and ice and delivered it to our house. It was nice meeting you and your wife. But don't tell DH about any more deals on fresh meat. Please.

Dear DH,

When you said you ordered a pig from Iowa, I didn't have a problem with that. We've bought beef before and it was nice to just go to the freezer for dinner. I know the price of the pork was a great deal. However, I wasn't prepared for the fact the pig would just come quartered, not packaged. I also don't appreciate being left with the job of processing the carcass. If it weren't for the money already spent on it, I would toss the whole thing out. This is the most disgusting thing I think I have ever done. If I wanted to butcher pigs, I would have stayed in my hometown and married a farmer. I will do my best to finish this job. But the irony is that now neither the kids or I want to eat this meat. I do know where meat comes from, I generally don't have a problem with it, but I don't ever want to be this closely involved in the process ever again. :gross::sick::yuck::puke: Becoming a vegetarian is very appealing at the moment.

Dear pig,

Thank you for providing food for us. I hope someone will be able to eat you at some point. I'm sorry for doing such a poor job at this.

[JaamE]

Please, please, for the love of all that is holy, go away. I am single, in case you've forgotten. I can't just roll over at night and get some.

This has been going on for FAR too long. I'm sick of buying batteries.

Same problem here, only I'm dealing with a DH who won't do it just for me so i have to wait for him to be in the mood.... and I'm going batshit!:sex:

[Storymama]

:gross:D This is the most disgusting thing I think I have ever done. If I wanted to butcher pigs, I would have stayed in my hometown and married a farmer.
Is there a packing service in your town, maybe a place that caters to hunters? I know it's more money, but . . . OMG, that is beyond the pale. You are a better woman than me, several times over, if you finish that job yourself!!!!!

[hamamelis]

:puke::yuck::gross:Dear Roger, the very nice driver at DH's work,

I appreciate that you hauled the fresh pig all the way back from Iowa in coolers and ice and delivered it to our house. It was nice meeting you and your wife. But don't tell DH about any more deals on fresh meat. Please.

Dear DH,

When you said you ordered a pig from Iowa, I didn't have a problem with that. We've bought beef before and it was nice to just go to the freezer for dinner. I know the price of the pork was a great deal. However, I wasn't prepared for the fact the pig would just come quartered, not packaged. I also don't appreciate being left with the job of processing the carcass. If it weren't for the money already spent on it, I would toss the whole thing out. This is the most disgusting thing I think I have ever done. If I wanted to butcher pigs, I would have stayed in my hometown and married a farmer. I will do my best to finish this job. But the irony is that now neither the kids or I want to eat this meat. I do know where meat comes from, I generally don't have a problem with it, but I don't ever want to be this closely involved in the process ever again. :gross::sick::yuck::puke: Becoming a vegetarian is very appealing at the moment.

Dear pig,

Thank you for providing food for us. I hope someone will be able to eat you at some point. I'm sorry for doing such a poor job at this.

(((Kelly))) I'm just going to give your DH and the driver friend from work a good ole bop. While it may have been a good deal $$ wise, it definitely wasn't a good deal overall. I'm sorry and can imagine how frustrating it is.

[Kathy]

Dear people shooting off fireworks, on the 2nd and 3rd of July... you suck. Knock it the fuck off. My kids need to sleep. It's more fun to actually have a little anticipation and wait for the FOURTH anyways!

...and on the 5th of July, and the 6th, and the 7th :mouthfull:flame::rant::banghead:

[kellydog]

(((Kelly))) I'm just going to give your DH and the driver friend from work a good ole bop. While it may have been a good deal $$ wise, it definitely wasn't a good deal overall. I'm sorry and can imagine how frustrating it is.

It is done and in the freezer. I can't say that I have any recognizable cuts of meat beyond the hams, ribs, and chops, but it is finished. I had to go outside and cry out of grossness and frustration a few times. But I would take a deep breath and go back in until I got the job done. DH called at about 5pm to see how it was going. He tells me that he'll be home soon to take over. Well, he got home after 7 because he decided that he really needed to go work out instead.:flame::wtf: He cuts about 8 chops, fills 6 bags with various pork parts, and heads to the shower. I then get to clean and bleach everything before I get to go shower. He even had the nerve to comment that he didn't know what the big deal was, it wasn't that much work. Yeah, come in and do it for 15 minutes and make that comment! I had been at it for hours!

The only amusing part of the whole experience were the weird thoughts I kept having. Thinking that 16 years ago I called off an engagement to a very nice man because he was a pig farmer and I didn't want to live on a farm and deal with pigs. Then thinking that raising pigs wouldn't be nearly as bad as being married to one.

I don't know how people do this regularly. Veggies are my new best friends.

[hamamelis]

It is done and in the freezer. I can't say that I have any recognizable cuts of meat beyond the hams, ribs, and chops, but it is finished. I had to go outside and cry out of grossness and frustration a few times. But I would take a deep breath and go back in until I got the job done. DH called at about 5pm to see how it was going. He tells me that he'll be home soon to take over. Well, he got home after 7 because he decided that he really needed to go work out instead.:flame::wtf: He cuts about 8 chops, fills 6 bags with various pork parts, and heads to the shower. I then get to clean and bleach everything before I get to go shower. He even had the nerve to comment that he didn't know what the big deal was, it wasn't that much work. Yeah, come in and do it for 15 minutes and make that comment! I had been at it for hours!

The only amusing part of the whole experience were the weird thoughts I kept having. Thinking that 16 years ago I called off an engagement to a very nice man because he was a pig farmer and I didn't want to live on a farm and deal with pigs. Then thinking that raising pigs wouldn't be nearly as bad as being married to one.

I don't know how people do this regularly. Veggies are my new best friends.

Well, in DH's family that processes poultry, the guys in the butchering room have it down to a science, and when it's running right, everything goes smoothly. It's when the scalder or plucker breaks down that there's a problem. The last time our birds were butchered (a few weeks ago) I actually wound up bagging our birds. That's a huge step for me, normally I won't step foot in that place, the smell... they're called fowl for a reason. I've come a long way!

[azul99]

For almost four years now, FOUR years, I have been tolerating your bullshit. You regularly berate and belittle and harass me, via email, on the phone, wherever and whenever, for DOING MY JOB. It is MY JOB to protect the interests of the company we work for.

It was bad enough when, last year, you compared Legal to the garbage collectors in a mass-distro email. It was also pretty bad when you shouted at me on the phone last winter for pointing out that you were WRONG to be doing $1M/month of work without any written agreement. It has been continually awful to do work for you knowing that whatever comments and edits I provide to your contracts will not be added because you can’t be bothered. Doing work for you is pissing in the wind, we all know that. Doing work for you is an ongoing freaking nightmare. Up to ten days ago, though, I dealt with it. What choice did I have?

But this, THIS latest email is too much. Beyond the pale, over the top. It is NOT ok to tell me that you will "not take this treatment" when said "treatment" consists of my pointing out that choices you are making pose risks for the company whose interests I am paid to protect. It is very, very much NOT ok to tell me that you have been trying for years to have me removed from this account because of my "unprofessional conduct" (WTF?); that we had seemed to reach a "truce" (wth?) some time ago but that I am "backsliding" and "pulling this crap again." This is VERY much NOT ok. You are a first-class ASS.

I have been around the block, Client. I am 47 years old and have been practicing law for almost two decades. I have practiced in NYC, the tough-guys capital of the legal world. I am not a shrinking violet. Even given all that, I have never been subjected to the kind of crap you dish out to me on a regular basis. NEVER.

You SUCK and I cannot get off your engagement fast enough. I hope some karma kicks in and you pay big-time very soon. I hope you eventually rot in hell.

Eff you.

Sally

[azul99]

In these past several years of working first with you, then for you, even under very stressful circumstances, I had never lost my cool. Never, that is, until ten days ago. I think you know, therefore, that my tears were not crocodile tears. They are ANGRY tears.

I am glad that ten days ago, you agreed with me that this is ENOUGH; that I will NOT be treated this way; that these problems have existed for YEARS and they are periodically addressed and then nothing happens; that I am doing my job (and very well at that) and nothing more, and that I will not be abused for that. I was reassured when you told me that you would go to the powers that be and let me know quickly what the next step would be. I was grateful that you were extremely supportive and reassuring and said and did all the right things.

Fast-forward ten days, after seeing no action and after being made by you to proceed with Business As Usual vis-a-vis my abuser, I am angry again, and disgusted. You are all talk, and no walk. I am supposed to be "patient," yeah right. Patient my ass; there ARE no consequences for my abuser's behavior, since he brings in the big bucks.

Boss, I was very ambivalent when I told you a few months ago that I planned to change groups, and work for someone else. I have always thought that you were kind of ~meh~. No great shakes, but not a bad buy either. So when I decided a few months ago to pursue an opportunity in another group, since I thought you were basically a good guy, I had mixed feelings. No more. You suck too. I can't get away from you fast enough.

Let's face it; our company's Code of Ethics is a sham. Why don't we just say so?

Eff you,

Sally

[shannon]

Dear person who spends time with my children;
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I need you to understand what autism means. It means that even though you can LEGALLY change your plans to spend time with my children on 48 hours' notice (although that itself is iffy, since I believe the court order says something about it being mutually agreed upon), you cannot change your plans with an 8-year-old Aspie on a whim. There are, of course, situations where it's necessary. And sometimes (like the movie pass I won for tomorrow evening), it'll even be a great experience for him. He's still going to experience some anxiety and be out of sorts as a result, though, and I accept that. For perspective on what transition means for him, please understand that his grandmother, his respite provider, and I will be working with him consistently over the next TWO MONTHS to prepare him for a change in our family's schedule once I start school in the fall. I will also be spending a significant amount of this time advocating on his behalf with the new principal to ensure that he is given adequate transition support over the first few weeks of school. Why is it that I put so much time and effort into ensuring that his DISABILITY is accommodated in a way that makes life a lot easier for all of us, and you get to randomly decide to "take a pass" on one of your chosen days, in favour of another?

Please don't get me wrong. Your involvement with the kids in the last year has increased substantially. You're becoming more financially responsible with regard to their welfare. I see it, I appreciate it, and I want it to continue. I KNOW you love your kids. I just need you to put yourself in their shoes, every once in a while. I know that a lack of theory of mind makes this incredibly challenging for you, but you know what? I don't care. This isn't about you.

[mirage1]

For almost four years now, FOUR years, I have been tolerating your bullshit. You regularly berate and belittle and harass me, via email, on the phone, wherever and whenever, for DOING MY JOB. It is MY JOB to protect the interests of the company we work for.

It was bad enough when, last year, you compared Legal to the garbage collectors in a mass-distro email. It was also pretty bad when you shouted at me on the phone last winter for pointing out that you were WRONG to be doing $1M/month of work without any written agreement. It has been continually awful to do work for you knowing that whatever comments and edits I provide to your contracts will not be added because you can’t be bothered. Doing work for you is pissing in the wind, we all know that. Doing work for you is an ongoing freaking nightmare. Up to ten days ago, though, I dealt with it. What choice did I have?

But this, THIS latest email is too much. Beyond the pale, over the top. It is NOT ok to tell me that you will "not take this treatment" when said "treatment" consists of my pointing out that choices you are making pose risks for the company whose interests I am paid to protect. It is very, very much NOT ok to tell me that you have been trying for years to have me removed from this account because of my "unprofessional conduct" (WTF?); that we had seemed to reach a "truce" (wth?) some time ago but that I am "backsliding" and "pulling this crap again." This is VERY much NOT ok. You are a first-class ASS.

I have been around the block, Client. I am 47 years old and have been practicing law for almost two decades. I have practiced in NYC, the tough-guys capital of the legal world. I am not a shrinking violet. Even given all that, I have never been subjected to the kind of crap you dish out to me on a regular basis. NEVER.

You SUCK and I cannot get off your engagement fast enough. I hope some karma kicks in and you pay big-time very soon. I hope you eventually rot in hell.

Eff you.

SallyYou tell 'em, Sally!

Isn't there an HR department or something you could forward the email to? If this person is treating you that way, s/he's probably treating other people as disrespectfully, too.

[Kathy]

((((Seppie and DS)))) I can't even imagine how badly Ryan would react to that kind of last minute change. It would be HUGE. Wishing him a firm schedule, and you a rest at the end of the day.

[shannon]

((((Seppie and DS)))) I can't even imagine how badly Ryan would react to that kind of last minute change. It would be HUGE. Wishing him a firm schedule, and you a rest at the end of the day.


Thanks, Kathy.

It's just *different* when I make the change, you know? I accept that there's going to be some rockiness, and I shift stuff around to accommodate the fallout so that it's lessened. But when it comes without sufficient notice to me? It all falls apart. *sigh*

We'll get through it.

[sarahs]

....The only amusing part of the whole experience were the weird thoughts I kept having. Thinking that 16 years ago I called off an engagement to a very nice man because he was a pig farmer and I didn't want to live on a farm and deal with pigs. Then thinking that raising pigs wouldn't be nearly as bad as being married to one.

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Oh Kelly that does sound dreadful. But this bit amused me too and the whole thing sounds like it has the makings for a great short story.

[Bickery]

The only amusing part of the whole experience were the weird thoughts I kept having. Thinking that 16 years ago I called off an engagement to a very nice man because he was a pig farmer and I didn't want to live on a farm and deal with pigs. Then thinking that raising pigs wouldn't be nearly as bad as being married to one.



Seen Waking Ned Devine?

[azul99]

You tell 'em, Sally!

Isn't there an HR department or something you could forward the email to? If this person is treating you that way, s/he's probably treating other people as disrespectfully, too.

Thanks Margie. I'm proceeding w/caution because my management is (allegedly) handling it. IMO they are not being aggressive enough. If I go to HR, HR will circle back around to my management, who won't be too happy about it (since they are handling it you see, and I'm supposed to be "patient" :banghead:).

[gfrach]

Dear D---this is just bugging the sh*t out of me. I am *not* trying to control you by wanting to know when to expect you to bring C home. Really.

Get over yourself for pete's sake.

:razzberry:

[Debra]

Dear Evan's Tires of Poway,

You suck ass. I have been a faithful customer for over 3 years now and have even recommended you to people. I regret that now. I just spent $1700 at your freaking shop 10 days ago for repairs, only to have The Problem back AGAIN. I could cry. So today when DH brings the car back YET AGAIN you tell us you "forgot" to put an important part on the car. Niiiiiiiiice. Real professionals! Now you tell me you will give me a "break" on the part and the labor. It will ONLY cost me $200 more! AND you're going to "kindly" throw in 4 tickets to the water park!
:banghead: :wtf: :eyes: :flame::censored::darkcloud::rant:

FOOK YOU.

And this is my "good car". Not the one I'm getting rid of. I'm so sick of cars with 100k + miles on them I could weep. I'd buy a horse instead of a car but with my luck it would be diseased. {sigh}

[Loopy]

:puke::yuck::gross:Dear Roger, the very nice driver at DH's work,

I appreciate that you hauled the fresh pig all the way back from Iowa in coolers and ice and delivered it to our house. It was nice meeting you and your wife. But don't tell DH about any more deals on fresh meat. Please.

Dear DH,

When you said you ordered a pig from Iowa, I didn't have a problem with that. We've bought beef before and it was nice to just go to the freezer for dinner. I know the price of the pork was a great deal. However, I wasn't prepared for the fact the pig would just come quartered, not packaged. I also don't appreciate being left with the job of processing the carcass. If it weren't for the money already spent on it, I would toss the whole thing out. This is the most disgusting thing I think I have ever done. If I wanted to butcher pigs, I would have stayed in my hometown and married a farmer. I will do my best to finish this job. But the irony is that now neither the kids or I want to eat this meat. I do know where meat comes from, I generally don't have a problem with it, but I don't ever want to be this closely involved in the process ever again. :gross::sick::yuck::puke: Becoming a vegetarian is very appealing at the moment.

Dear pig,

Thank you for providing food for us. I hope someone will be able to eat you at some point. I'm sorry for doing such a poor job at this.

Oh. My. God. Is it wrong that I just did a giant snort laugh on this? I'm so sorry for you but good gravy that was hysterical. :rofl:

[Peggyann]

Dear Grouchballs, er, Karys,

Seriously, what is with you today? Do you want some midol? Should I just hand you the chocolate and salt and back away slowly?

love,
Mom

~PA~

[MorgnsGrl]

Dear Paresthesia,

You suck. I've gotten used to just accepting you and dealing with you most of the time, but I CAN'T BEAR the current flare-up of pins-and-needles on my feet and ankles, because it feels like there are BUGS crawling on me and biting me. In fact, I was convinced we DID have some kind of bugs in the house until I sat staring at my ankles for a while and realized that the sensations had NO outward cause. My nerves just suck, apparently. STOP. NOW. I'm ready to scream. Enough, already.

No love, Me

[Kathy]

Thanks, Kathy.

It's just *different* when I make the change, you know? I accept that there's going to be some rockiness, and I shift stuff around to accommodate the fallout so that it's lessened. But when it comes without sufficient notice to me? It all falls apart. *sigh*

We'll get through it.

((((Seppie and DS))))

Ack - I'm so sorry, Shannon - did I get your name that wrong? Eeek. I'll blame lack of sleep and our own Summer adjustment issues over this way.

Unexpected change is just so much harder to deal with. I don't tell Ryan at all about plans that *might* change, since dealing with the build up to an event and then falling apart when it doesn't happen is far worse than suddenly doing something unexpected (which is also hard, but not as bad for him). I know you'll get through it, but a huge bop to your ex that he doesn't understand and honor what his son needs. :-(

[Pensive]

I appreciate the fact that the land owner has hired you to mow the unsold lots to make them look more appealing. But you DO NOT freaking mow into my property. I'm sure it was a simple mistake. I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt here, but I'm upset. My land goes way beyond the tree bed next to our driveway. There were visible property markers that you should have been paying attention to. Dh had already mowed most of the grassland down (not sure what you were mowing there) but he deliberately left a big chunk of grassland in the back for the animals. You mowed down what we left for the animals. :mad: Birds and snakes and frogs and things live in there. I'm sad that all the grassland is being mowed to begin with but at least we're out of mating season for most things. But you mowed down OUR grassland that we WANTED there because we wanted to leave some of it wild for the animals. I don't think it's going to grow back properly for many months. :sob:

[skyra]

This reminded me of the time you posted pictures of the grape juice incident. I'm glad he is getting back to his self.
{hands Krista a margherita}

So funny you posted this...I hadn't seen it before now, but this morning I was going through my pictures and saw the grape juice incident and Leif and I had a good laugh...

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[gfrach]

Oh, K!!!! OMG, that would totally make me so mad!!!!!! I'm sorry!

[Peggyann]

Dear Coach,

It is pouring rain. I called you at 5:15 after I got your email saying practice was still on for tonight. I told you my weather radio was going off, and that there was another SEVERE THUNDERSTORM WARNING for the entire area. This includes golfball sized hail and up to 60mph wind gusts.

I know that the last time you cancelled practice, the minute you called everyone it cleared up. But right now it is 6:10pm. Practice is at 6:30. It is still thundering so loudly that my dogs are all in their kennel whimpering, and my 3 year old is in my lap, holding my neck with a death grip, while my 6 year old is laying on my bed with a pillow over his head. And these are children that are NOT afraid of normal thunderstorms.

~PA

[threecubs]

Dear Coach,

It is pouring rain. I called you at 5:15 after I got your email saying practice was still on for tonight. I told you my weather radio was going off, and that there was another SEVERE THUNDERSTORM WARNING for the entire area. This includes golfball sized hail and up to 60mph wind gusts.

I know that the last time you cancelled practice, the minute you called everyone it cleared up. But right now it is 6:10pm. Practice is at 6:30. It is still thundering so loudly that my dogs are all in their kennel whimpering, and my 3 year old is in my lap, holding my neck with a death grip, while my 6 year old is laying on my bed with a pillow over his head. And these are children that are NOT afraid of normal thunderstorms.

~PA

Oh no! Did it end up getting called off?

[anna v]

I don't want to be here and it's been pretty horrible since I arrived. Getting completely lost on the first night here because I got off at the wrong train station sucked. I managed to cope with stinky guy on the plane and to catch the shuttle and then the train.

My darling DH managed to figure out the cab company I needed and I rang a cab which never came. So I caught another train in the completely wrong direction, finally flagged a cab after walking miles with all my luggage, got ripped off with the cab fare and he stole my wallet with my money and all my ID, TG I had my change purse with enough money to buy food.

The weather sucks, this 'luxury' seaside cottage lacks basic amenities like curtains so all the heat is pouring away from the heater we cannot adjust and it's too high sometimes and woefully inadequate at others.

Picked up DS from his camp (after a 2 hour train journey, I'm in BFE because of all the pilgrims who are in town due to the Pope being in Sydney next weekend. WTF? Pope is going to Sydney so why have a beanfest in Melbourne? as well?). He had a wonderful time but didn't change his clothes for 5 days! Yeesh they enforced a twice daily shower on him why didn't they notice he was putting the same bloody clothes on again?

Weather is awful. We see the surgeon on Monday. I wanna go home now!

[Storymama]

I don't want to be here and it's been pretty horrible since I arrived. Weather is awful. We see the surgeon on Monday. I wanna go home now!
That sounds completely miserable!!! I hope the time goes quickly . . . I hope you can report that cabbie, too.

[mirage1]

I don't want to be here and it's been pretty horrible since I arrived. Getting completely lost on the first night here because I got off at the wrong train station sucked. I managed to cope with stinky guy on the plane and to catch the shuttle and then the train.

My darling DH managed to figure out the cab company I needed and I rang a cab which never came. So I caught another train in the completely wrong direction, finally flagged a cab after walking miles with all my luggage, got ripped off with the cab fare and he stole my wallet with my money and all my ID, TG I had my change purse with enough money to buy food.

The weather sucks, this 'luxury' seaside cottage lacks basic amenities like curtains so all the heat is pouring away from the heater we cannot adjust and it's too high sometimes and woefully inadequate at others.

Picked up DS from his camp (after a 2 hour train journey, I'm in BFE because of all the pilgrims who are in town due to the Pope being in Sydney next weekend. WTF? Pope is going to Sydney so why have a beanfest in Melbourne? as well?). He had a wonderful time but didn't change his clothes for 5 days! Yeesh they enforced a twice daily shower on him why didn't they notice he was putting the same bloody clothes on again?

Weather is awful. We see the surgeon on Monday. I wanna go home now!Oh no, Anna, I'm sorry! I hope the rest of the visit makes up for it somehow.

[riversprite]

OH my goodness, that's terrible!!
Did you lodge some kind of a complaint?

[anna v]

I'm screwed WRT reporting him as the receipt he gave me has NO details on it -- just the fare and a scrawled signature. I should have checked it, normally I would have checked it but this one time...

The taxi lost and found person was lovely but all she could do was put out a call asking who had the fare and wait for a response. Which he didn't. The other thing I did was pay cash instead of my creditcard so he can't be traced that way either.

It's gone :(. I'm more concerned about all my ID and replacing it. At least I was only carrying a hundred or so cash and thankfully it's at a time in my life that the cash is just a minor blip and not a BFD.

Still want to go home like yesterday. I just don't click with this city.

[jerzymama]

Yes, I said DD could get a temporary henna tattoo.

Yes. I said DD could get a temporary tattoo of a dragon on her wrist.

No, I did not say DD could get a temporary tattoo that wont fade for TWO WEEKS (DD starts camp in 10 days) of a dolphin at the base of her spine right above her bikini bottom . SHE'S 12 YEARS OLD. You have two daughters and 4 other granddaughters...did it not occur to you (well, obviously it didn't) that maybe that would not be cool with me? Y'know, knowing *ME*.

Dear Self...

Oh the next few years are going to be interesting as DD takes full court advantage of the meaning of LITERAL. And be careful what you say "yes" to without thinking through all possible scenarios.

Argh.

[hamamelis]

Yes, I said DD could get a temporary henna tattoo.

Yes. I said DD could get a temporary tattoo of a dragon on her wrist.

No, I did not say DD could get a temporary tattoo that wont fade for TWO WEEKS (DD starts camp in 10 days) of a dolphin at the base of her spine right above her bikini bottom . SHE'S 12 YEARS OLD. You have two daughters and 4 other granddaughters...did it not occur to you (well, obviously it didn't) that maybe that would not be cool with me? Y'know, knowing *ME*.

Dear Self...

Oh the next few years are going to be interesting as DD takes full court advantage of the meaning of LITERAL. And be careful what you say "yes" to without thinking through all possible scenarios.

Argh.

Oh no! Would fingernail polish remover take it off?

[gfrach]

Yes, that or plain alchohol even. :-( I'd be po'd at my MIL for that.

[jerzymama]

Yes, that or plain alchohol even. :-( I'd be po'd at my MIL for that.

I'm going to wait at least until DH gets home on Friday. heheheheh

I just told him what happened - he just got to his hotel. He reminded me that a tattoo in that region in current vernacular is affectionately referred to as a tramp stamp

[gfrach]

Oh yeah, I'd let him deal with it with the MIL at least! Grrrr!!

[sarahs]

I'm going to wait at least until DH gets home on Friday. heheheheh

I just told him what happened - he just got to his hotel. He reminded me that a tattoo in that region in current vernacular is affectionately referred to as a tramp stamp

Well, at least he sounds like he supports your objections. Yikes. (nt)

[jerzymama]

Oh yeah, I'd let him deal with it with the MIL at least! Grrrr!!

She saw my reaction when DD showed it to me.:ohno: DD totally manipulated her; I'm just disappointed that MIL didn't use better judgment but all of her kids & grandkids have taken advantage of her gullibility...DD's just next in line.

[gfrach]

Ah, well that is still frustrating, but I see your point that there's no reason to take it up with her.

[skyra]

I knew you were difficult, but I gave you a HUGE chance, as I try not to judge people based on other peoples opinions. When you whined that you needed help in that area, I offered my help, even when others told me to stay far far away and offered me easier places to volunteer my time. I didn't realize that my generosity would translate into you taking full advantage of my time and patience. I didn't realize that i would spend 26 of my precious hours this past weekend tending to your tantrums, running around for you in order to keep you calm and busting my ass to get everything done. Seriously, I walked away irritated, but I knew how stressful a weekend this was and I just let it go.

The way you have treated people this week though..people who don't OWE YOU A THING..people who have volunteered their time to make this a good time for the kids, and I am just disgusted. You bet I challenged you when you said that the kids coiuldn't color on the cardboard box. You had NO reason that they couldn't and the excuse you made was lame. Yes, I challenged you when you threw a tantrum and said that your good long time friend fucked everything up by not providing plates and the kids were going to have to eat with their hands...when the reality was, you knew full well that the plates were on their way and that it was actually YOUR responsibility to deal with that and she was covering your ass. You have hurt so many people and have taken ALL of the credit for your work when really, without all of us running around doing the work and catering to your tantrums, this entire thing would have fallen apart already.

I have NEVER in my life met a whinier, pathetic, self absorbed martyr than I have met in you. As your long time friend said about you "your day isn't complete unless you have something to be miserable about". I would feel sorry for you, except that is EXACTLY what you thrive off of. Instead, I will save my sorry for all of these women who are just trying to make this a good healthy experience for the kids, and who have managed to hold their tongue for (in some cases) years. I hope I can learn to bite my tongue as well.

[hamamelis]

Dear DH (and today the D stands for dumbass)

If you work a shift, directing traffic around work the phone company is doing on the poles and lines, please don't ASSume you are going to be there for a short time, even if that's what happened historically. You stood on blacktop all freaking day, in the blazing sun and failed to put on sunscreen. I don't feel sorry for you and don't feel bad that you've been awake for 24 hours straight when I laid into you for being such a dumbass about not putting on sunscreen. Use your head, be the freaking grownup and put on the sunscreen. We have the spray kind for a reason. Use it.

The top of your head that was covered by the hat you were wearing is bright white, the rest of your face, neck and head are not. It's not a cool tan and you're going to be a hurting unit tomorrow.

Your really pissed off wife. (OMG, you have no idea how pissed I am)

[Mumbly]

Dear Son,

Enough, OK? I don't know how much more I can take.

[Sarah]

Dear Son,

Enough, OK? I don't know how much more I can take.

Oh oh.
:grouphug2:

[Mumbly]

Oh oh.
:grouphug2:

Thanks for the hugs. I'm feeling a lot better, now. He's really great most of the time and rarely causes me any problems, but every once in a while he really tries me. :banghead:

[Bickery]

In lieu of the thread in H&R, which I won't clutter with my own aside but have brought it here instead:

I wish my mother were either a mother or a girlfriend. I wish that she loved me unconditionally and would support me even though I have not fulfilled her plans for me -- I wish I didn't even know that I haven't! I wish that I did not have to go into situations with her with my guard up, that I could share who I really am with her and she would love me. I wish that she would not say nasty things that I can't forget and then deny having said them.

[Storymama]

I wish my mother were either a mother or a girlfriend. I wish that she loved me unconditionally and would support me even though I have not fulfilled her plans for me -- I wish I didn't even know that I haven't! I wish that I did not have to go into situations with her with my guard up, that I could share who I really am with her and she would love me. I wish that she would not say nasty things that I can't forget and then deny having said them.
{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{F}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} You deserve every single one of those things, and I wish them for you too.

[gfrach]

I wish that for you, too, F!!! I'm so sorry she is unable to give that to you!

Huge hugs!

[Debra]

In lieu of the thread in H&R, which I won't clutter with my own aside but have brought it here instead:

I wish my mother were either a mother or a girlfriend. I wish that she loved me unconditionally and would support me even though I have not fulfilled her plans for me -- I wish I didn't even know that I haven't! I wish that I did not have to go into situations with her with my guard up, that I could share who I really am with her and she would love me. I wish that she would not say nasty things that I can't forget and then deny having said them.

{{{{{{{{F}}}}}}}} :hugging:

[webbeccjo]

dear sis,
please don't shut me out. I know that you are overwhelmed with packing for the move.... I get that you are still in school (online class) during the move and have a final paper due in a couple of days....I get that you are disorganized and that the very day you left work, your dh flew up to start packing. But I'm your SISTER!

I'm the one that opened my home to you and your family...I'm the one that put my whole life into disarray to help you when you needed help leaving Tx and coming up here! I'm the one who has been like a second mom to your kids!

We never really had time to emotionally prepare for your move because it was so iffy and on-again-off-again right up to the last minute.
It went from something that may happen someday, to something thats happening NOW in the blink of an eye.
And your dd was going to stay and live with us, then she wasn't, then she was, now she isn't.....my heart can't take this any more! I love her as if she were mine!

You could make a little time for me! you will be gone first thing tomorrow morning, and TX is so far from NC. With both of us strapped financially, who knows when we will see each other again!?

It's like you've already mentally left me. I went over to see if I could help you pack and it felt awkward, like I was in the way.
Every time I call I feel like I've caught you at a bad time. Conversation was never stilted between us before...and its not like this is the first time one of us has moved away from the other before either.
Its never felt so...awkward before.
I've been so supportive, telling you that its fine and trying to make it easy for you so you didn't feel guilty when I called, but what about my feelings? I can't always be the strong one -who's going to ask if I'm ok? who's going to care that I'm sad?

In all fairness dh is out of town and 2 of my kids are gone this week so I'm feeling more isolated than usual and thats not your fault or responsibility.
but if you were in my shoes, I'd realize that and reach out more just for that reason alone.
I'm losing you and its breaking my heart. I'm losing your sweet children and thats breaking my heart as well. I know you love me and that you are doing the best you can - and I'm not really mad at you, I can never stay mad at you! I just feel sad and hurt

[gfrach]

Hugs, Jennifer!!!!

[Bickery]

Thank you all.

If it wasn't time for therapy before, it certainly is now!!!

[jerzymama]

Thank you all.

If it wasn't time for therapy before, it certainly is now!!!

xxx

[Bickery]

That monthly post we've all grown to loathe:

It's Day 28.

Please stop making sound.
Every time someone yelps or thumps, I leap out of my skin.

I just need to be alone in a sound-proof shelter.

[skyra]

I really do. I can FEEL your pain when you speak of her. I wish I could offer you some wise words or great advice, but I know that what sounds good in theory isn't always what works or happens in real life.

What I can wish for you though, is peace and healing :hug2:

In lieu of the thread in H&R, which I won't clutter with my own aside but have brought it here instead:

I wish my mother were either a mother or a girlfriend. I wish that she loved me unconditionally and would support me even though I have not fulfilled her plans for me -- I wish I didn't even know that I haven't! I wish that I did not have to go into situations with her with my guard up, that I could share who I really am with her and she would love me. I wish that she would not say nasty things that I can't forget and then deny having said them.

[Bickery]

I really do. I can FEEL your pain when you speak of her. I wish I could offer you some wise words or great advice, but I know that what sounds good in theory isn't always what works or happens in real life.

What I can wish for you though, is peace and healing :hug2:

Thank you all.

I'm really pondering the feasibleness of forgiveness without laying down and stamping "welcome" on my belly. I guess I need to be very clear to myself what it means to forgive -- I don't think it's necessarily something that happens beyond one's self.

[gfrach]

I guess I need to be very clear to myself what it means to forgive -- I don't think it's necessarily something that happens beyond one's self.

I think you can forgive and still have clear and firm boundaries. I do think a *big* part of forgiveness is inside one's self and that you can forgive without ever communicating that forgiveness. (Though I do think it is nice to communicate it if you can. In your case, I suspect your mother wouldn't accept forgiveness because she may feel she's done nothing wrong. :-( )

Forgiveness allows you to stop being angry about past hurts--to stop hurting about them.

However, when you are still in a relationship with someone who is still hurting you, then it's harder. You can forgive the past hurts and still get hurt and still have more to forgive--like a never ending circle. I think in those cases (where I am with my mom, for example) you have to combine the forgiveness of past hurts with acceptance that they probably will never be able to give you more than they are already are and setting firm and clear boundaries. You may have to consider limiting contact, sometimes even cutting off contact in very extreme cases.

It's a very personal decision as to what is best in your case.

Personally, I find forgiveness of past hurts the easy part. I get hung up on the acceptance that things will never change part.

[Sue]

Come on, you know you want to.

Dear Warranty company,

If this is the (third) final call to extend my warranty, why do I have to press 2 to be removed from the follow up list??

Guessing it wasn't a "final" call.

[gfrach]

Your warranty company must be the same people who want to lower my credit card interest rates (and I have pushed that #2 more times than I can remember!). I swear I'm tempted to get caller id just long enough to get their number and report them.

[MorgnsGrl]

Your warranty company must be the same people who want to lower my credit card interest rates (and I have pushed that #2 more times than I can remember!). I swear I'm tempted to get caller id just long enough to get their number and report them.

Yeah, I've pressed 2 many times as well. I've also pushed the button to talk to someone and asked to be removed from their calling list only to be hung up on without a word, multiple times. Once I asked to speak to a supervisor, and was hung up on then, too.

[darcy]

Dear General Manager, (and I use the "Dear" in the most sarcastic way possible)

STOP EATING MY FOOD!!! I am NOT your personal snack service. When there is food on my desk, in front of me, it is NOT free for the taking. I was NOT kidding when I said today that you need to pay me more if you expect me to feed you. And then! To bitch at me for bringing vegetables (for ME! NOT YOU!) is just beyond unbelievable. Seriously. You are the rudest human being I know. I am plotting ways to teach you a lesson. They involve large amounts of Ex-lax and chocolate muffins. Or maybe I'll just skip that step and go straight to strychnine.

Bring your own damn food.

[gfrach]

I've also pushed the button to talk to someone and asked to be removed from their calling list only to be hung up on without a word, multiple times.

Yep, done that twice. Haven't even tried to ask for a supervisor. It really sucks!

[gfrach]

Dear B.F.

I guess sometimes google isn't my friend. I decided to google you and try to find you (I've done it before and never succeeded). This time I found out you died 8 years ago. I'm sorry, B.F., that's much too young and it's sounds like it was hard, too. The world is less rich without your kindness and talent. I'm glad I knew you and sad we lost touch so many years ago.

My prayers to your family.


Sigh.

[Bickery]

Dear B.F.

I guess sometimes google isn't my friend. I decided to google you and try to find you (I've done it before and never succeeded). This time I found out you died 8 years ago. I'm sorry, B.F., that's much too young and it's sounds like it was hard, too. The world is less rich without your kindness and talent. I'm glad I knew you and sad we lost touch so many years ago.

My prayers to your family.


Sigh.

(((Rach))) I'm sorry :(

[hamamelis]

Dear B.F.

I guess sometimes google isn't my friend. I decided to google you and try to find you (I've done it before and never succeeded). This time I found out you died 8 years ago. I'm sorry, B.F., that's much too young and it's sounds like it was hard, too. The world is less rich without your kindness and talent. I'm glad I knew you and sad we lost touch so many years ago.

My prayers to your family.


Sigh.
:grouphug: I'm sorry Rach.

[kellydog]

Dear STBXH,

I am truly glad that we were able to ammend the Order of Protection so that you can have supervised visitation. The kids do need to see you and you them. But you really need to read the new order. The agreement is for visitation to be supervised by your brother (that I happen to like), communication about the visitation is to be via e-mail and only pertaining to visitation-related issues, and I am to choose the pick-up and drop-off locations.

I did expect a reply to the initial e-mail I sent stating a proposed time and location for exchanging the kids. While I understand your compulsion to apologize for "ruining" my life and our marriage and to wish me happiness, I think you need to stick to the topic at hand. I'm not taking the bait. I've heard it before a million times. Don't be offended by the fact I didn't respond to that part in my reply. I am sticking to the Order to the letter.

Secondly, when you sent me another e-mail stating you wanted to take the kids to church, breakfast, and a movie Sunday I missed the fact that YOU changed the exchange to a town near us instead of the original spot. It sounds almost like you ALONE are planning to bring the kids to our church and be around this area. I can't imagine that your brother is willing to sacrifice his whole Sunday with his family to supervise over here. I expect a response in the morning to the e-mail I sent regarding this. The visits are supervised for a reason. You don't get to have the kids alone. At all. And if you think I am going to roll over and allow that to happen, you don't know the new me. There is no way in hell I am going to let you drive them across the quarry alone after you threatened to drive us all over the edge. I have no problem with having you bring them to our church, I will go elsewhere. But your brother has to be with you and the kids.

If you want to see how far you can push this, go for it. I decide where the exchange happens. Pay attention to that. The visits are supervised the whole time. Pay even closer attention to that. Only e-mail me about visitation. No personal comments. If you violate those, you are in violation of the Order of Protection and I will call the police. Trust me on this.

[mirage1]

Dear STBXH,

If you want to see how far you can push this, go for it. I decide where the exchange happens. Pay attention to that. The visits are supervised the whole time. Pay even closer attention to that. Only e-mail me about visitation. No personal comments. If you violate those, you are in violation of the Order of Protection and I will call the police. Trust me on this.You are strong, Kelly! I am so glad you are seeing this so clearly.

[Sue]

((((Rach))))) I am sorry! ~nt

[mirage1]

Dear B.F.

I guess sometimes google isn't my friend. I decided to google you and try to find you (I've done it before and never succeeded). This time I found out you died 8 years ago. I'm sorry, B.F., that's much too young and it's sounds like it was hard, too. The world is less rich without your kindness and talent. I'm glad I knew you and sad we lost touch so many years ago.

My prayers to your family.


Sigh.{{{Rach}}} That would be a hard discovery to come to grips with.

[Jessica]

You are strong, Kelly! I am so glad you are seeing this so clearly.
Yes! You sound very strong and assured. I am happy to read that you seem to have reached a place that you feel safe.

[Sensitive Topic]

and I need to just vent without my name behind it because I will get over all of this later on. I am just feeling overwhelmed today. I literally feel chocked by my anxiety this week and not even my anxiety meds are touching it. I am exhausted.

Dear DH. I know you hate your job. You have been doing it for 30 years and you are sick of the politics and your body is getting worn out. I have suggested for YEARS a career change, but you refuse to do anything about your own misery. We are NOT in dire straights. In fact, we are doing very well. I just wish that you could not behave as if we are always just around the corner from complete financial ruin. I have suggested, OVER AND OVER, my getting educated so that I can take some financial burden off of the family, but you tell me how financially unfeasible this is. How it is unnecessary. Honestly, I think you just like being the martyr.

Dear family. What the hell is the point of me spending ANY time cleaning? You seem to wallow in your filth. I have never kept a white glove house, but I have managed to keep it in varied degrees of tidiness over the years. I just can't keep up with you guys! Seriously, what the hell has happened lately? You guys still do your normal chores, and I seem to be constantly cleaning, but I can't seem to get on top of it. You are just messing behind me so fast. My house is a complete embarrassment to me right now and I feel like crying when I wake up in the morning and have to pass through hallways covered in handprints. I honestly have given up on washing them because they are there literally moments later. I wish I were exaggerating. I keep creating systems to fix things...like creating this great pocketed filing system for bills, but if nobody uses it, what the hell is the point? I realize that you, DH, are very busy, but you took the unread mail out of the mail folder, so why couldn't it go right back into the read file which is in that exact location? Instead I spent 15 minutes cleaning up bills and envelopes all over the kitchen, office and dining room. I do NOT ENJOY cleaning up unnecessary messes.

DC. Oh DC. How you produce so much dirt is beyond me. Really, you remind me of Pigpen. I can bathe you 3 times a day and you are still filthy. Your handprints on every surface are irritating enough, but must you take EVERYTHING apart and scatter it around the entire house? I came home on monday to 8 boardgames all over my dining room in various degrees of destruction. Puzzles everywhere. You drop clothing, garbage, toys, magnets, pencils (etc etc) whereever you happen to be standing. So, yk, I could deal with that if it weren't for 'experiments' everywhere. Between you and your brother and father, my carport looks like a hillbilly trailer park family moved in here. I had asked you to clean your 'glue ball' experiments up (flour, water, food coloring) and every time I turn around I find more. It was just the final straw when I went outside and a big glob of it was plastered to my plant holder outside. It is on your dads truck, the bikes, all over my carport. The piece of wood that you and your friend smashed into a billion bits is all over my yard. You have dug 3 new holes in my yard this week.

I wanted to have a nice garden this year. I wanted to spend time at the beach with friends. I wanted to work on my business and push it a little more this summer. I wanted to repaint the fence. I wanted to take you guys on some cool road trips. I wanted to do some canning with the fresh fruit that I was hoping we could go picking together. Instead, I am stuck in this house cleaning up after all of you slobs and NEVER. GETTING. AHEAD. I am finding no joy in my life right now.

Oh, and while I am on a good pissy rant, DH. I sure would appreciate it if you weren't the only one who is benefiting from this great sex life of ours. Sure, it is fun and all, but it is beginning to feel a little one sided. I love that I turn you on that much, but how about *ME*?

AND, stupid fucking dog. What the hell? You were such a good obedient dog. Perhaps neurotic and a little stupid, but what is with these new changes? No, it is NOT funny that everytime DS stops moving you try to hump his leg. It is NOT funny that everytime someone opens the door you make a run for it. It is NOT funny that you are digging holes in my yard alongside DS. Knock it the hell off.

Dear anxiety. Please go away. I am feeling absolutely choked by you right now and it is not helping the above mentioned issues.

[gfrach]

Hugs, ST!!!

[aleutsi]

and I need to just vent without my name behind it because I will get over all of this later on. I am just feeling overwhelmed today. I literally feel chocked by my anxiety this week and not even my anxiety meds are touching it. I am exhausted.

{{{ST}}} I'm feeling much the same way today. PMS is exagerating my anxiety.. and I do cry over my messy house as soon as I wake up. I cry because I'm losing my DD from my daily life in 6 months :sob: and at THE VERY SAME moment, I can't wait until all my kids are out of my house and my home can be CLEAN! I spend so much time cleaning an area, I feel all warm and squishy about it, then move on to another area - get it clean and start to feel all warm and squishy again until I turn around and see all my previous work UNDONE... in just a matter of minutes.. then I rest from all my hard work and the 2nd area is trashed. By the end of the day it doesn't look like I've done anything. And I don't have toddlers, I was told that it would get EASIER when the kids are older... to me it just seems like the messes grew with the kids. :sob: And the dog is shedding. How can such a little dog have so much stressing HAIR?

And yeah, the anxiety. I rode with DH this morning (his day off and we were out running errands with the kids) and was in tears over the traffic... and trying to hide my irrational reactions because DH takes it as criticism of his driving. :eyes: How many times do I have to say "It's not about YOUR driving... it's all me... ignore my reactions - they are irrational and sometimes I just can't stop them!"?

[Amanda_Reyasmom]

and I need to just vent without my name behind it because I will get over all of this later on. I am just feeling overwhelmed today. I literally feel chocked by my anxiety this week and not even my anxiety meds are touching it. I am exhausted.

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Me too. I feel like the worst dog owner on the planet. My period can't start soon enough.

[Bickery]

Wow, I feel your strength 1000 miles away.

I have a letter like that. I've kept it, but I won't be going back to discuss it. I did say, "thank you" but no thank you to dragging the drama on.

It makes me think of the "making amends" step, but what he's doing isn't quite what that means and anyway it's way too soon.

Expect a pm the next time I need to have my backbone reinforced!

[gfrach]

Oh, now I'm getting the warranty calls, too!! Dang! I need to see how much caller id costs!

[MmMelody]

I'm not sure where you buy your airline tickets, but priceline.com (AND orbitz.com) has them for $400 from memphis to dullus flying in and out on Sundays.
I'm sorry (for your daughter) that $600, if that were the actually price of the cheapest ticket you could purchase, would be too expensive to see your daughter once in two years. Hopefully whatever you save now by not seeing her you will be able to set aside for the therapy both your children will need as a result of an absent father. Playing online games and e-mailing once and a while is no where near the level of parenting or support your children need, and frankly it's disgusting to watch (and that's even putting my personal problems aside as a result of my father, and in large part as a result of your actions as well).
Maybe you'll be able to see Sarah next year, I hope you realize that you're alienating your children and if you hope to ever have real relationships with them you will have to spend real time with them, and perhaps actually include them in the family you have created since leaving their mother.
Melody

[JaamE]

Arghh!
Fucking Data entry!
This is not my job, it's the job of someone who was fired in February, it should be done by the person that replaced her. It is NOT my job! i hate it, i loathe it, i DO NOT want to spend the next week in the other room doing fucking data entry because no one thought to tell the new promotions assistant that she needed to do it. Now there's over 1000 damn entries that need updating because no one has done it. And I cant even do it at MY desk. I'm a DJ for godssake, fucking data entry bullshit... i fucking hate it.

[renee]

Just change a few words around and I could have written this. I understand. I'm sorry.

In lieu of the thread in H&R, which I won't clutter with my own aside but have brought it here instead:

I wish my mother were either a mother or a girlfriend. I wish that she loved me unconditionally and would support me even though I have not fulfilled her plans for me -- I wish I didn't even know that I haven't! I wish that I did not have to go into situations with her with my guard up, that I could share who I really am with her and she would love me. I wish that she would not say nasty things that I can't forget and then deny having said them.