Is this where I say that E's stepmom

[Mary]

is being induced at 5am tomorrow? Her due date is the 27th. I only asked if everything was okay and xh said it was fine, they were just going to start her labor. She works at labor and delivery, so I assume she has very specific and different birth theories than I do. I hope it goes smoothly for her. The last time we spoke, she was actually very nice and I was encouraged by that. Sometime in the next couple of days, my son will have a baby brother who is supposed to be named Dalton "Eli." I dropped E off with them this morning and he'll be with them and his other grandmother until Friday. I hope for his sake, it all goes very well.

I was talking to my mom yesterday and she started to get snarky about it and I told her she had to LET IT GO. After all, it's my son's baby brother she's talking about.

[Bickery]

((((Mary)))) ((((Ethan)))) I hope everything goes well and that he adjusts seamlessly to having a baby brother.

I wonder why your mom was snarky? Worry about Ethan, feeling robbed of a grandchild? Either way, she needs someone to snark to besides you.

[sarahs]

I hope it all goes well Mary. You are handling it with grace and I hope your mom can follow your example. Because you are right, its Ethan and this new baby that are important here. {{{{Mary and Ethan}}}}

[mirage1]

I hope it all goes well for her!

[Mary]

((((Mary)))) ((((Ethan)))) I hope everything goes well and that he adjusts seamlessly to having a baby brother.

I wonder why your mom was snarky? Worry about Ethan, feeling robbed of a grandchild? Either way, she needs someone to snark to besides you.

Anytime anything with XH or Ethan's SM comes up, I have to make her be nice. She's so angry at him that I don't know if she'll ever get past it. It's very hard for her to let things go and move forward in an adult fashion. That's one of the reasons she and I butt heads so much.

[Bickery]

Any news, Mary?

[Mary]

This is his week with his dad and I know he's staying at his grandma's house for a few days while they were in the hospital.

Any news, Mary?

[~PQ]

You're being very mature about this, good for you! Hope she had a wonderful birth and baby brother is healthy and happy. :)

[Mary]

When I talked to Ethan on the phone this week, he didn't want to talk about it. He gets home tonight so I guess he'll tell me about it then. Poor guy didn't sound very happy, or maybe I'm projecting and he was just distracted by his video game. I really hope it's all gone well.

[Ali]

When I talked to Ethan on the phone this week, he didn't want to talk about it. He gets home tonight so I guess he'll tell me about it then. Poor guy didn't sound very happy, or maybe I'm projecting and he was just distracted by his video game. I really hope it's all gone well.

{{Mary}} If it helps, Jordan was very disappointed in Dalton. He cried when he found out he had a baby sister. He was hoping for a brother really bad. Then he got Q :spinning: I'm glad I didn't have those two back to back! T~R~O~U~B~L~E LOL At this point we were all comfortable with each other. His mom was being normal, and was actually happy for us (well, me anyway ;) ) So hopefully it's just something small that had him distracted, or was upset about the sex of the baby , lol.

{{hugs}}

[ADDled]

{{Mary}} If it helps, Jordan was very disappointed in Dalton. He cried when he found out he had a baby sister. He was hoping for a brother really bad. Then he got Q :spinning: I'm glad I didn't have those two back to back! T~R~O~U~B~L~E LOL At this point we were all comfortable with each other. His mom was being normal, and was actually happy for us (well, me anyway ;) ) So hopefully it's just something small that had him distracted, or was upset about the sex of the baby , lol.

{{hugs}}
I cried when my mom told me about being pregnant after she married my stepdad. I was 12 when she was born, I was 11 when she announced to me she was pregnant. I still can see that moment, my mom sitting on the edge of my bed, me sitting on the floor, and the feeling of total dispair I felt that she was going to have another baby.

Some of it was when my parents got divorced, part of my coping mechanism was looking forward to it just being us three girls. Then, very soon after, my soon-to-be-stepdad was spending TONS of time with us.

Some of it was I didn't want to think about them having sex and making babies.

Some of it was I didn't want to be replaced in my mom's affections.

Some of it I probably still can't identify. I couldn't identify any of it when I was 11, I just felt devastated.

And now. . .I'm so glad she exists! She's the sibling I'm closest to, we have a great relationship, if she didn't exist I don't know what life would be like! (BTW, we bonded almost instantly - when she came home from the hospital I picked her up right away and I seldom put her down until she could walk a year and a half later!)

All that to say I think it's probably normal to feel somewhat ambivalent about a new half-sibling for a variety of reasons.