Spinoff from the sleep thread.

[kathy caribe]

Do you have co-sleeper(s)? How old are they?

[jump4joy]

Only once a week. Asa has "sleep in your bed night" once a week. She's our last co-sleeper and now it's only one night a week. <sniff>

[karunamayi]

Well, Hladini's bed *is* my bed, but lately she has been wandering over to Sterling, Chaya or Kripa's beds at night, which is fine by me bc no matter how short I make her toe nails, they still seem to leave scars.

Chaya has started wandering around at night and I simply can't sleep with her. She's one of those Olympic sleepers who seem to be expert in shot putting. *BAM*

I am very done with co-sleeping but for now, technically, Lala is in my bed.

I don't even like Kripa in my bed.

[mudcreekmama]

Baby 6 months co-sleeps, Girl and Boy (7 & 3) choose to cosleep with one another but each have a room if they wanted to sleep alone. Big Boys 14 and 16 sleep alone but commandeer our bed for movie watching.

[kathy caribe]

Baby 6 months co-sleeps, Girl and Boy (7 & 3) choose to cosleep with one another but each have a room if they wanted to sleep alone. Big Boys 14 and 16 sleep alone but commandeer our bed for movie watching.

that is so cute that your 3yo sleeps with a sibling!

[Peggyann]

Mine are both in their own rooms now

My sister and I, even though we had our own rooms, slept in the same bed until she was 14 and I was 17.

~PA~

[mudcreekmama]

I think the sibling quotient is what made his transitioning so easy - he started off sleeping with his big brother, then moved in with his big sister. Now its her climbing into bed with him!

[Kerry]

Camille stopped cosleeping with me when Mac moved in and we moved into a house where she had her own bedroom (before that, she and I shared a bedroom). That was almost two years ago, so at 6. I believe she still sleeps with her dad on occasion when she's at his house.

I expect Leo will sleep with us for the first year or two, then I'm hoping to transition him into either a toddler bed or in bed with Camille (who has said that she wants him to sleep with her). We're planning on sidecarring a crib to our bed so he has his own discrete sleeping space near us, but it hasn't happened yet.

[karunamayi]

an ammendment to this seemingly bitchy post:

In the morning, I *love* to cuddle squishy 3, 8, 11 and 57 year olds. lol

During the night, I just don't get a very restful sleep if someone is there with me. I've been co-sleeping since sterling was born (turning 12 in July) and as sweet and important as it is, I never liked it, naturally. My kids co-sleep often, eventhough they have their own beds.

[riversprite]

Do you have co-sleeper(s)? How old are they?

Forest turns 6 on Sunday and spends at least half the night in our bed.
He starts out the night with Maia in her double bed and then makes his way over to sleep with us.
Once in a while he sleeps the whole night with Maia, though.

Maia would sleep with me every night if I let her, and she's 9. :p

[kokoro]

Interestingly, my friend in Japan says that everyone cosleeps in Japan with their kids and that children do not choose to go to their own rooms until they are about 9 or 10 and some not until 12. Parents don't push them to go. The idea of a 6 year old "still cosleeping" is that it is expected and normal. She can't imagine sending children to their own rooms to sleep. Of course, most people sleep on futons on the floor. Japanese futons are totally different than the ones sold in this country that function as both beds and couches. They are thin, light and comfortable. People are supposed to fold them up during the day (almost like you would a blanket) or put them outside over the porch to get sun. You sleep on the floor with them and your child might be in their own futon but pulled up right next to you. Most people have their own futon. DH and I got a full-sized one when we were there and had to special order it as married couples also all have their own generally and just pull up right next to each other. I think being right next to another person while in a futon would disturb sleep much less than sleeping in a bed would because you are on the floor. The floor isn't going to move like a mattress does when the person next to you moves even if you are sleeping much closer to one another than two people on most beds.

I think we are in such a rush in this country for children to be independent. Even people who co-sleep generally think by a certain age they want their child out (I do) and that certain ages are "too old". I don't think the Japanese view of co-sleeping is in line with that of most co-sleepers in the USA and I think the idea that it is normal to cosleep until 9-12 years old is not what most USA cosleepers are thinking.

[Sarah]

Do you have co-sleeper(s)? How old are they?

Didn't vote, as currently no one is in with us. Claire finally left our bed when she was about... five and a half? She had her one room always but didn't start sleeping in her bed until she was three. For a couple of years she'd start in her bed and wind up in ours more often than not.

[ADDled]

Do you have co-sleeper(s)? How old are they?
The baby is still in our bed, and Jaden (5) will every once in a while have a nightmare and climb in with us in the middle of the night. I'd say a couple times/month. Jody, who I thought would NEVER leave our bed LOL, wants no part of it now.

[Jill]

but we usually wake up with the two little ones in our bed. They wander in sometime in the middle of the night :)

Jordan loves to sleep in our bed but we move her when we go up to bed, and she's cool with that.

Jordan and Emily used to sleep together pretty often, and now Emily and Drew like to sleep together. It's so adorable. :)

[karunamayi]

Our friends from th Phillipines also co sleep. Period. The family shares one bedroom and they were also feeding and bathing their youngest until he was nine.

[threecubs]

Ian will be turning 7 next month, and he still starts out the night in our bed. DH usually transfers him to his own bed when he comes to bed (anywhere from 12-2am), but if Ian wakes in the night he comes back. He usually stays until 6 or 7, and lately he's been staying until it's time to get up. It's getting hard on DH's back though! It's a good thing that Ian is so skinny, otherwise I don't think DH could do it.

[Kimd]

Joseph sleeps with us. Patrick started routinely sleeping on his own somewhere between 4.5 and 5.

[Meagan]

I'm not sure how to answer this because at 2.5 Owen, who as I said in the other thread is a really crappy sleeper in general for the first 3-4 hours of the night, would probably sleep fine on his own for the second half of the night if I could only pinpoint exactly when that 'deep sleep' shift was going to happen and could plan for him to be on his own at that point.

The beginning of the night, he sleeps like crap so I keep him in the bed because it's easier to deal with that way. I have tried putting him down in his own bed and it just means I have to get up to put him back to sleep several times when he wakes up FREAKING OUT.

I really don't mind sharing a bed with him when he's actually asleep, and during his "deep sleep" period he seems to sleep just as well whether I'm next to him or not. So for HIM, it doesn't appear that this is a co-sleeping issue at all, just sort of a "my sleep pattern is totally screwy" issue.

ETA: Jacob (10) and Isaac (8) choose to share a room, and William (4) more often than not ends up in their room. He has his own bed right across the hall from us, but would rather sleep on our floor (only allowed on weekend nights) or on his big brother's floor.

Jacob's been making some noise lately about wanting to share a room with Owen, which I would love if it made the transition out of our bed easier for Owen and gave us a few hours in the evening to ourselves!

[Kim]

W coslept from day one, before I'd even thought it was an option (cause they all sleep in their own rooms in their own cribs you know), until he was 4 and then he slowly stopped coming into our room. N slept in our room from day one but not in our bed. At 8 months, he decided he needed to be in the middle of us. At 3 he began sleeping in his room across the hall, but he comes into our bed almost every night at age 6.

M sleeps better alone and always has. She slept in a baby bunk (this thing was awesome) until she was 8 months. Now at age 2, she has been wanting to join me some time during the early morning. She sleeps very nicely next to me now, surprisingly enough, unlike when she was a baby. She's in a bigtime Mommy Stalker phase right now.

Usually, we wake up and the 2 littles are in the middle of us :-)

[cinnamon]

I answered twice, even though technically Quin (5 1/2) no longer sleeps in the same bed or room, but IMO he is still "co-sleeping" in my loose definition of the word. For his first oh....18 months? maybe, we had a family bed (the last 6 months of which were with a crib sidecar). From 18 months until about 5 yo he had his own bed, but in the same room, and he would get in The Big Bed in the early, pre-dawn morning. When we moved last fall, he asked for his bed to be put in his own room, which is this teeny tiny room off of the master bedroom. You actually have to walk through this room to get to the master, so I think it's technically not even a "bedroom" but probably a dressing room? Anyway, his bed is about 10 feet from The Big Bed, but there is door between the two (that we leave open at night) so I guess *technically* it's a separate room. I *highly* doubt he would be okay with being by himself in a room farther away from us than that, which is totally fine with us because I don't want him farther away either! :)

Lucy (1 yo) co-sleeps... we have the crib sidecar but I never put her over there. She is a polite co-sleeper, lol, so I don't mind her being right next to me.

[burmkeep]

Nearly 2.5 and we all sleep in the same bed. I'm expecting he'll let us know when he is ready to sleep away from us. DH and I are happy co-sleeping.

[bumblebee]

I expect Leo will sleep with us for the first year or two, then I'm hoping to transition him into either a toddler bed or in bed with Camille (who has said that she wants him to sleep with her). We're planning on sidecarring a crib to our bed so he has his own discrete sleeping space near us, but it hasn't happened yet.

Camille sounds so sweet! :hearts:

[Amanda_Reyasmom]

Maia would sleep with me every night if I let her, and she's 9. :p

Reya too LOL! She was moved to her own bed when L moved in with us. Every now and then she sneaks in though :love:

[Bickery]

Mine are 7.5 and 9.5 and they both have own rooms/own beds and both start the night in these own rooms/own beds 95% of the time. Probably 25%-33% of the time one or both (but usually just one these days) joins me at some point. I'd be fine with them room-sharing or co-sleeping except that it's much harder to get them to wind down.

I did make an effort to get them out of my room/bed a couple of years ago, partly because I just wasn't getting good sleep (Karunamayi -- I understand the toenail thing, OMG!) but also because as a single mom, I know that I might eventually be sharing a bed with a man who is not their dad and I want there to be a big gap between not being in moms bed anymore and someone else being in mom's bed instead.

Comfortwise, I think that I could continue to cosleep with one child indefinitely but squished between the two just wasn't working anymore.

[aleutsi]

Do you have co-sleeper(s)? How old are they?

Mine is 9. She's going through phases.. if we did not encourage her to sleep in her own bed, she'd totally be happy sleeping in our room or in our bed. Some nights she begs and we cave and she'll make a pallet on the floor or climb into bed with us.

I remember my bigs doing the same at her age. If they didn't start out in my bed, they come in during the night and sleep on the floor. I'd wake up and have to stumble over sleeping children to get to the bathroom.

And they proved my mother wrong. They are NOT wanting to still sleep with us as teenagers, LOL!

[Amanda_Reyasmom]

but also because as a single mom, I know that I might eventually be sharing a bed with a man who is not their dad and I want there to be a big gap between not being in moms bed anymore and someone else being in mom's bed instead.



I totally understand that. I had began transitioning Reya a few months before L moved it, but it wasn't ALL the time he started living with us.

[mirage1]

Camille stopped cosleeping with me when Mac moved in and we moved into a house where she had her own bedroom (before that, she and I shared a bedroom). That was almost two years ago, so at 6. I believe she still sleeps with her dad on occasion when she's at his house.

I expect Leo will sleep with us for the first year or two, then I'm hoping to transition him into either a toddler bed or in bed with Camille (who has said that she wants him to sleep with her). We're planning on sidecarring a crib to our bed so he has his own discrete sleeping space near us, but it hasn't happened yet.:hearts: I just love that you have a baby now. LOL. It's sweet to read about!

[mirage1]

an ammendment to this seemingly bitchy post:

In the morning, I *love* to cuddle squishy 3, 8, 11 and 57 year olds. lol

During the night, I just don't get a very restful sleep if someone is there with me. I've been co-sleeping since sterling was born (turning 12 in July) and as sweet and important as it is, I never liked it, naturally. My kids co-sleep often, eventhough they have their own beds.Hush, Kripa cannot be 57! Is he really!? I would have never guessed in about a million years that he was more than, maybe, 40, from the photos you've posted.

[Brenda]

The baby cosleeps and will for a while yet.

The older three all have their own beds, but they do get "special nights" where they can sleep with Luis in the spare room (or with me before Simon or again once he is a little older) every once in a while or when sick.

Isabella would happily be still sleeping in a bed in our room or with us every night. She does fine in her bed, but still given a choice, she'd be closer to us. She is the one who asks for special night weekly, but gets it about once a month. Abigail and Vincent like their beds and their space, but do enjoy the infrequent snuggle night.

[Gargoyle]

Kathleen still co-sleeps with us and still nurses at night. :) Of course I say nurse, but really it's perhaps 1 minute of really fast and deep sucking and then it's back to sleep. LOL Like a midnight snack.

Jessie hasn't slept in our room since she was 4 or so. I love sleeping with her because I adore cuddling with her (We call it snuggle bugs) but she has never ever been a cuddler. :) We are so different sometimes.

[riversprite]

Reya too LOL! She was moved to her own bed when L moved in with us. Every now and then she sneaks in though :love:

Uh huh. :) Just last night I slept with both the kids in the big bed and Marc slept in Maia's room. I decided to go to bed super early and they *begged* to both sleep with me so we decided to all go to bed together and have Marc sleep somewhere else when he went to bed.
They were both very very happy to "start out the night" with me. LOL!

[AMG]

Do you have co-sleeper(s)? How old are they?

Garland (4½) still sleeps with me. Ben slept in my bed until he was six, then slept in my room in his own bed until he was eight.

Every now and then Garland says he's going to share Ben's bed for the night, but he's never lasted more than 15 or 20 minutes before he's back with me. And once in a while Ben will fall asleep in my bed, so I end up sleeping squished between two boys (I think the next time that happens I should just go crawl into Ben's bed for the night).

[Hawthorne]

I voted in the 4-5 category because Lewis is going to be 4 in less than a month. He is still in our bed mostly full time. I sometimes move him down to a cushion on the floor and he wakes up in the middle of the night and crawls back in with us.
The older two are 99% independent, but will come in if they have a bad dream and curl up at my feet.

[Pensive]

I have a (nearly) 7 year old and a 4 year old who are about to start sleeping at least the first half of the night in their own beds. They will both have their own bedrooms in the new house and we've been playing that up about how special it is to have their own private room that they don't have to share with anyone. We let them pick out special bedspreads for their new beds. We'll lay down with them until they fall asleep and then we'll leave them in their own bed. It's possible that one or both of them might come into our bed in the middle of the night but I'm hoping that it doesn't happen every night. At the risk of sounding mean, I'm really tired of having cosleepers. I have to sleep upside down as it is to avoid being woken up every hour by someone fluffing my hair. I want my bed back so I can sleep more soundly.

[Bonny]

no cosleepers here, but my 5 1/2yo twins' bed is in our room (the only place we have for it).

[Kathy]

That said, he usually sleeps in his own bed. He does sleep with us occasionally if he has had a bad dream and can't get back down on his own, but that happens pretty rarely now. But if you asked, he would like to sleep with us every night. He's wonderfully snuggly, but moves like crazy when he sleeps so neither Dan nor I get much sleep at all when he's in the same bed with us. So we've done everything possible to make his bed a warm, cozy, safe place that he feels comfortable with.

[anastasia]

Do you have co-sleeper(s)? How old are they?
I couldn't answer the poll—all of mine are comfortable in their own beds/rooms and happily go to bed there, but Michael usually joins us in our bed sometime during the night. I'll miss him when he stops. :hearts: He's a great cuddler.

Once in a while Natalie will want one of us to sleep with her in her room (she has a queen bed), and very occasionally she will come to ours. A couple weeks ago when Ed was traveling I awoke to the bed moving, felt a child cuddled up to me and assumed it was Michael, then was confused to see Michael just climbing in then. Turned out to be Natalie next to me, sound asleep, having snuck in just like Michael usually does without waking me.

Nick has not come to our bed in years except for the rare morning cuddle, though he knows he is welcome.

[Debra]

At almost 8 years old Colin comes into our bed 1-4 times a month. ETA: Aside from when Alex went to 6th grade camp a few weeks ago, Colin has never slept in a room alone. He and Alex have always shared a room (I slept in their room from when Colin was a newborn until he was 4 years old).

[Artemis]

There really isn't a choice as we live in a 1 bedroom apartment, but I think even if there was, she'd still be in my bed...she seems to like the arrrangement we have a little too much. I have talked about "someday" getting into a 2 bedroom apartment and she is adament that she is still going to sleep in the same bed/room anyway. lol

[lunita]

Do you have co-sleeper(s)? How old are they?

I replied about my current cosleeper, Lucia (2.5), but Amanda wasn't comfortable falling asleep by herself until she was about 5. I had her in her own bed when Maia was born (she was 3.5) but dh or I would usually lay down in her bed until she fell asleep and then she also often came to us when she woke during the night.