Heather, perhaps you can help jog my memory...

[Debra]

The last time we were really in contact was when I was living in Roseville, so that was 3½ - 4 years ago. I thought we had a discussion (after you had been away from YAAPS for a while and we hadn't had much contact)where you talked about not adminning because you didn't have time and were not really around anymore.

I was quite surprised to see it brought up that there was any kind of an issue around this. There were certainly no hard feelings on my part nor ill will. Not at all.

In the last 3-4 years we have had contact a small handful of times and adminning at YAAPS was not brought up that I can recall. Just more of a "Hey, haven't seen you in a while, how are things?" type of thing. In the last 3-4 years (or longer, I'm having a hard time remembering exactly) you have not asked anything about YAAPS or when we had archiving/deleting, etc. to do we did not here from you at all.

But perhaps your memory is better than mine (it wouldn't take much, LOL). :)

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I don't want anyone to think my tone or intent is different from what it is. :spinning:

At the time I remember telling you and Kerry that I was having some huge personal issues that i needed to take care of. This was the time when I almost got divorced. I told you both that I might not be around a lot to do the archiving/deleting, etc. I do remember going in the admin login from time to time and doing that when I had time even though I wasn't really participating socially.

There was a few weeks where I was concentrating on really trying to figure out the direction of my life, trying to decide whether or not to give my DH another chance at us as a family, etc. When I got back was when I saw that Mandi was back on board doing things. I did offer to help but I was told it wasn't necessary (I really think it was in passing and honestly I did NOT take offense to it since I could see that yaaps was running well.) I really didn't think much of it since I know she has helped off and on since yaaps conception. Lurking and posting form time to time. I did email you once (yeah....lousy of me..ONE time...:sosorry:) and told you I was back and was willing to help out but I think you may not have gotten that email because I think it was like a week later there was the announcement that Anne was a new admin. Maybe I should have said something but I didn't want to come across whiny or bitchy (hahahaha...I guess it is too late for that! **that's a joke people**) and since Anne was in full swing I thought that would have been a sticky wicket for anyone to say to me "sorry but we don't need you" or whatever.:embarass: So, I just stepped back...thinking if ever there was need for a backup...I was around.

Since then I have just taken a back seat. I thought that maybe if my services were wanted by you or Kerry or anyone I was available and would have been asked for. I don't want you or anyone to think that I feel slighted or looked over. My concerns about the community change over have been only about the "additions" and the excitement of the new software and being how I felt the same way when I made a sample forum back when we considered vb once before I can CERTAINLY understand from an admin point of view wanting to use or play with all the bells and whistles. :cop:

I see that my thoughts have been taken as the opposite as they were intended and maybe I should just fade back into the background again. I just thought since I was actively an admin at one point in time and since I have been with yaaps from the beginning as a member they would have been taken in the context in which I gave them which was from a pragmatic point of view.

Honestly, I hold NO ill feelings at all. I have expressed before (maybe not enough for everyone here) that I think what has been done in the amount of time it was done is wonderful and exciting for the community at large. I just really don't want...in all of our excitement...loose the decorum in which things have always been done which was to give everyone a vote before things were done. Sadie, Mandi, you, and Anne have done what you thought is best. From a geek standpoint I think the set up is very cool and being on a few communities that use Vb I have to say this is much easier for me to navigate than DC was.

[Debra]

I really don't think I got that email. :-( I know I would never have ignored it on purpose. I'm very relieved you don't have any bad feelings, I certainly have none WHATSOEVER and you have been very helpful in the past and I really, really do appreciate it, HC. :kiss: Thank you so much for helping me figure that out, I was concerned about that.

I'm also so glad that dark spot in your life passed and it sounds like things are really good for you right now. I'm very happy to hear that! ;)

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please don't apologize.

As I have said. I honestly thought you didn't get that email and seeing as how the site had plenty of support I really didn't take any sort of offense. One thing I know for sure...everyone is just wanting to help and one can't really fault or take offense over that issue...at least that is how i see it. ;-)

Yes...I am too!!! LOL Things are amazingly good for me now! My relationship is something I always dreamed it should be wanted to have. I honestly feel like I am going to wake up from some dream! LOL The only thing that really gets to me is the issues with the kids but I guess that is to be expected. I am just so grateful I have a partner I can truly rely on and confide in and I feel like I am taken seriously as a valid partner in this marriage. I guess it took a near miss, me standing up and no longer accepting excuses and knowing I deserved better... and some counseling for us to get to this place but it is the best damn place I have ever been! Okay, I'll stop gushing. LOL

[Debra]

Okay, I'll stop gushing. LOL

No! Gushing is good! :dance:

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Thank you!

I'll remember that. ;-) I might have to gush a little more often. Heee!