And then there's the question of how the sperm got to the egg.

[Gargoyle]

LOL I've always been open and honest when the questions come up. Tonight I had to ask for some time to form the answer. The question, obviously was, "So mom, how does the sperm get to the egg?" LOL So the whole, people, like animals, mate, to make babies, isn't enough anymore. HHmm so now I'm off to form an answer that won't scare her the next time she looks at daddy.

[Peggyann]

LOL!!!

Neither of my kids have asked about where babies come from yet. But Karys did ask me how she got out of my tummy. I told her and she looked at me and said "uhuh, you're lying"

~PA~

[Gargoyle]

LOL!!!

Neither of my kids have asked about where babies come from yet. But Karys did ask me how she got out of my tummy. I told her and she looked at me and said "uhuh, you're lying"

~PA~

LOL Jessie had that reaction too. She knew she was born via c-section and that I had a HIGH anxiety level about Kathleen's birth and didn't want another c-section. She asked how else the baby would come out. I said, "Well from your vagina." Without even taking a breath she said, "I'm never having kids." LOL she has changed her mind as it's been a few years, but she's still not happy the baby comes out of there.

[Tracy]

*LOL* ! Yup, have had that talk three times now (The next one will be Josh and I'm gonna let Daddy handle that!). I will never forget the look on Madison's face when I was finished....Well, let me set this up...I was pregnant with Joshua and I had to spend the last 2wks of my pregnancy in the bathtub due to braxton hicks and pubic symphysis pain...And that is when Madison decided to ask me the question and to want more of an answer than....Mommy and Daddy love each other...

Me...pregnant and naked, trying to be all casual and not act like inside my brain is an explosion of humiliation.....Her.... eyes.....BOING!!!!! What?! And then she says..."I wish I didn't know that..." *LOL*

Thankfully Miya asked while I was fully dressed :-)

[mowse]

D gave the talk to Alex. I've asked Leelee if she has any questions and she changes the subject. She said she'd prefer to read about it LOL

[Peggyann]

I know the convo will come up eventually with Aidan.

we've had some, um, interesting penis conversations for a while now :eeek:

~PA~

[ceross]

D gave the talk to Alex. I've asked Leelee if she has any questions and she changes the subject. She said she'd prefer to read about it LOL

A just had her first cycle so I decided it would be a good time for a "talk" since she has never asked any questions. I gave her a couple of books first and like your daughter she was very satisfied with that. She did not want to ask any questions and said that she really was not interested in that sort of relationship for a long time.

[Storymama]

A just had her first cycle
Awww, congrats to her (and you too!)

My kids asked all this way, way earlier . . . but their dad is in medicine and all kinds of gory details are (for better or worse, LOL) dinnertable conversation. For example, they were keenly interested in infertility care he was rendering when they were just 8 or 9 . . . so they had to have the basics of healthy fertility first, to understand that. They knew he'd delivered babies, and in fact that he delivered Tori. They want all the gory details, implantation and hormones and corpus luteum and everything . . . but it's in the context of hearing about knee injuries (and repairs) another night . . . blood transfusion the next.

[gfrach]

I keep reading the subject line as the "...how the sperm got the egg" LOL!

I handled this whole thing by getting C lots of books about it at various ages (age appropriate, of course). He's never asked a lot of questions, but I quiz him from time to time to make sure he gets it. :-)

[mirage1]

LOL I've always been open and honest when the questions come up. Tonight I had to ask for some time to form the answer. The question, obviously was, "So mom, how does the sperm get to the egg?" LOL So the whole, people, like animals, mate, to make babies, isn't enough anymore. HHmm so now I'm off to form an answer that won't scare her the next time she looks at daddy.I highly suggest letting someone else do the talking. Someone...cartoon-ish, LOL: http://www.amazon.com/Its-So-Amazing-Families-Library/dp/0763613215/ref=pd_sim_b_5

That book is AWESOME. We read it together the first time, and then it's just always been around. We've picked it up together a time or two and I know she's read it herself many times, too.

[shannon]

I WISH we were still having that conversation. Yesterday, I found myself here (on the SUBWAY, no less):

J (who's 9.5, for reference): I'd like to watch Torchwood.

Me: Um, no. Not for a good long while, and we've talked about why I feel that way. Remember?

J: Yeah, yeah, lots of sex, lots of violence. .... But they're not REALLY having sex, right? It's just acting?

Me: Yes, on Torchwood, it is just acting, but it's still more than I'd feel comfortable with you watching yet.

J: No one would REALLY have sex in a movie, right? It's always just pretend?

Me: Um, no. No, sometimes people really have sex in movies.

J: But that's rare, right? Like, almost no movies are like that?

Me: Actually, there are a lot of movies just like that.

J: REALLY??? Tell me the names of some! Have you seen any?

OY.

[shannon]

I highly suggest letting someone else do the talking. Someone...cartoon-ish, LOL: http://www.amazon.com/Its-So-Amazing-Families-Library/dp/0763613215/ref=pd_sim_b_5

That book is AWESOME. We read it together the first time, and then it's just always been around. We've picked it up together a time or two and I know she's read it herself many times, too.

I second this recommendation, as well as for the younger kids' and older kids' versions. :)

[Gargoyle]

I keep reading the subject line as the "...how the sperm got the egg" LOL!

I handled this whole thing by getting C lots of books about it at various ages (age appropriate, of course). He's never asked a lot of questions, but I quiz him from time to time to make sure he gets it. :-)

LOL That would be funny if the sperm got the egg.

[Gargoyle]

I WISH we were still having that conversation. Yesterday, I found myself here (on the SUBWAY, no less):

J (who's 9.5, for reference): I'd like to watch Torchwood.

Me: Um, no. Not for a good long while, and we've talked about why I feel that way. Remember?

J: Yeah, yeah, lots of sex, lots of violence. .... But they're not REALLY having sex, right? It's just acting?

Me: Yes, on Torchwood, it is just acting, but it's still more than I'd feel comfortable with you watching yet.

J: No one would REALLY have sex in a movie, right? It's always just pretend?

Me: Um, no. No, sometimes people really have sex in movies.

J: But that's rare, right? Like, almost no movies are like that?

Me: Actually, there are a lot of movies just like that.

J: REALLY??? Tell me the names of some! Have you seen any?

OY.

LOL Oh you poor thing.

[Gargoyle]

So we sat down and talked about it. I had her get her anatomy book out. We went over the uterus and stuff, the cervix and vagina. Then we had a quick talk about periods because there was an added question she through in while we were talking about the build up of blood. Then another side converstation about tampons and mooncups (LOL and I can't help but smile because she keeps calling tampons, tampins. Cracks me up hearing a 9 year old say the word anyways) Then we moved to the other picture of the man and where the sperm was kept and stuff. She then says, "But yes, ok, but how does the sperm get from the man to the woman?" So I said, "I'm about to tell you but be sure you're ready for this information because you can't undo it once you know. Are you sure?" She looked at me funny and said, "Moooooooom just answer the question." So I said ok. "The sperm goes from the man to the woman through the vagina. The man's penis (we went over it getting errect before this) is inserted and the sperm goes in that way, but only a man and woman can have a baby this way."
"WHAT? EWWWWW. You mean, Ok so this only happens when you want a baby then right?"
"Um no, it happens between adults and can be pleasureable so it does happen more often then just for having babies."
"Ok so gay couples have to either adopt or have it done a different way?"
"Yes. (We went on to talk about medical stuff about the egg and sperm being fertilized in a lab and being implanted in a woman. We know two people who've had this done, so it helped) Are you ok? You're not going to freak out when you see daddy are you?
"Well of course I am. The shower door is made of see through glass. SEEEEEE THROUGH GLAAAAAAAAASSSS! Ok we can stop now. I'm good with that."

LOL so for better or for worse, that's over with. I also made sure she understood that I have no problem with answering any question, just some are harder to answer then others sometimes. The worst part for me, was trying to explain an erection. I'm still not sure I did that right. So I'm also going to get that book Margie recommended and see if that can help me if it comes up again. We did use her Care and Keeping of you, for the "tampin" part.

[mirage1]

"Well of course I am. The shower door is made of see through glass. SEEEEEE THROUGH GLAAAAAAAAASSSS! Ok we can stop now. I'm good with that."

LOLOL!!!! Priceless. It sounds like it went very well!

[gfrach]

LOL That would be funny if the sperm got the egg.

It just made me keep picturing this honking big sperm. LOL!

[gfrach]

LOL! That's priceless!


"Yes. (We went on to talk about medical stuff about the egg and sperm being fertilized in a lab and being implanted in a woman. We know two people who've had this done, so it helped) Are you ok? You're not going to freak out when you see daddy are you?
"Well of course I am. The shower door is made of see through glass. SEEEEEE THROUGH GLAAAAAAAAASSSS! Ok we can stop now. I'm good with that.".

[ceross]

[QUOTE=Storymama;186096]Awww, congrats to her (and you too!)

Thanks. It felt like a big moment to me. Avellana takes this sort of thing quietly, but she seemed pleased. She decided she wanted to use cloth pads and read the books I gave her rapidly, but as predicted has made no further mention of any of these topics. I have a feeling that going through these changes will be very different with each of the girls.

[Hobbes]

So we sat down and talked about it. I had her get her anatomy book out. We went over the uterus and stuff, the cervix and vagina. Then we had a quick talk about periods because there was an added question she through in while we were talking about the build up of blood. Then another side converstation about tampons and mooncups (LOL and I can't help but smile because she keeps calling tampons, tampins. Cracks me up hearing a 9 year old say the word anyways) Then we moved to the other picture of the man and where the sperm was kept and stuff. She then says, "But yes, ok, but how does the sperm get from the man to the woman?" So I said, "I'm about to tell you but be sure you're ready for this information because you can't undo it once you know. Are you sure?" She looked at me funny and said, "Moooooooom just answer the question." So I said ok. "The sperm goes from the man to the woman through the vagina. The man's penis (we went over it getting errect before this) is inserted and the sperm goes in that way, but only a man and woman can have a baby this way."
"WHAT? EWWWWW. You mean, Ok so this only happens when you want a baby then right?"
"Um no, it happens between adults and can be pleasureable so it does happen more often then just for having babies."
"Ok so gay couples have to either adopt or have it done a different way?"
"Yes. (We went on to talk about medical stuff about the egg and sperm being fertilized in a lab and being implanted in a woman. We know two people who've had this done, so it helped) Are you ok? You're not going to freak out when you see daddy are you?
"Well of course I am. The shower door is made of see through glass. SEEEEEE THROUGH GLAAAAAAAAASSSS! Ok we can stop now. I'm good with that."

LOL so for better or for worse, that's over with. I also made sure she understood that I have no problem with answering any question, just some are harder to answer then others sometimes. The worst part for me, was trying to explain an erection. I'm still not sure I did that right. So I'm also going to get that book Margie recommended and see if that can help me if it comes up again. We did use her Care and Keeping of you, for the "tampin" part.


LOL. I LOVE it. it is priceless.

[deeka]

LOL I've always been open and honest when the questions come up. Tonight I had to ask for some time to form the answer. The question, obviously was, "So mom, how does the sperm get to the egg?" LOL So the whole, people, like animals, mate, to make babies, isn't enough anymore. HHmm so now I'm off to form an answer that won't scare her the next time she looks at daddy.

conversation at my house the other day:

6-year-old DS2, calling from the bathroom: "Does my pee come from my balls?"

me, surprised because we usually use correct terminology: "What are balls?"

DS2: "You know, inside my scrotum."

me: "Those are your testicles inside there. They do feel like little balls, don't they? No, your pee doesn't come from there, it comes from your bladder."

(brief discussion of bladder)

DS2: "So what do my testicles do?"

me: "Well, when you are grown up, they make a kind of seed called sperm that helps to make a baby."

DS2: (Looks at me with amazement) How does the seed get to the mommy? Is there a tube from the daddy to the mommy?"

me: "No, there's no tube..."

(DS2 gets distracted by something and the conversation ends.)

In bed that night:

DS2: "I wish I could see that tube that goes from the daddy to the mommy."

me: "There is no tube."

DS2: "I wish there was a tube. Then I could use it as a sling shot."

:bounce:

[Hobbes]

conversation at my house the other day:

6-year-old DS2, calling from the bathroom: "Does my pee come from my balls?"

me, surprised because we usually use correct terminology: "What are balls?"

DS2: "You know, inside my scrotum."

me: "Those are your testicles inside there. They do feel like little balls, don't they? No, your pee doesn't come from there, it comes from your bladder."

(brief discussion of bladder)

DS2: "So what do my testicles do?"

me: "Well, when you are grown up, they make a kind of seed called sperm that helps to make a baby."

DS2: (Looks at me with amazement) How does the seed get to the mommy? Is there a tube from the daddy to the mommy?"

me: "No, there's no tube..."

(DS2 gets distracted by something and the conversation ends.)

In bed that night:

DS2: "I wish I could see that tube that goes from the daddy to the mommy."

me: "There is no tube."

DS2: "I wish there was a tube. Then I could use it as a sling shot."

:bounce:

ROFL, the imagery is hurting my head :-D